Just like we’ve been saying these past few weeks, September is a good time to start thinking about those new projects or ideas that have been turning in your head for some time. We are fresh from the holidays and we can take advantage of that energy or even that post-holiday depression, to turn it into a productive impulse.

However, sometimes this task isn’t so easy.  Not so much because of a lack of skills or energy, but rather because we don’t know what we want. Sometimes what’s difficult is not the process of getting what you want, but clarifying what it is you really want in the first place: to realize what your goals are and to focus your forces in that direction.

September is a good month to redecorate your life. The question is …

Do you really know what you want?

In order for a target to not easily dissipate, it has to be holistic and stimulating. This means that you have to integrate or consistently embrace several fundamental vital aspects and, furthermore, it has to keep you excited or motivated.   

From the outside, many people can be perceived as successful, however, they may not be perceiving themselves as such. They may have it all, but does what they have really make them happy?? We are not talking only about material possessions, but about whether you are happy with what and how you invest your time.

Do you know what you want in your life? Clarify your objectives

In order to feel totally satisfied, it has to be something you believe in.  It must be compatible with your values or moral principles, and it has to be consistent with your way of seeing and feeling the world.

This, precisely, is one of the fundamental points – sometimes what we really fancy doesn’t match what we think we should do. The eternal dispute between the ‘I want’ versus ‘I should’ is a battle that only lengthens with time.

In this sense, it is quite normal for our ‘present self’ and our ‘ideal self’ to conflict with one another, and if they get too far from each other, it is difficult to define objectives because there is no longer a balance. The goal can often change according to ‘which part’ is in power, thus turning into a loop of indecision and infinite dissatisfaction: when you have one thing, you miss the opposite, and vice versa, a spiral of continuous discomfort.

This conflict occurs many times when what we feel like doing does not coincide with those ideas that have been instilled in us, and usually this occurs in a family environment.  Imagine that in your family you value being a hard worker and come from a saga of very successful lawyers but what really delights you is working with animals, is it easy to break the family saga? This is the case with many other beliefs or legacies that are transmitted to us implicitly or unconsciously.

It is not easy to break all those beliefs or to get rid of what we learned in our upbringing, but is there any way to still pursue your individual dream? Yes. We can start by clarifying what you want.

Do you know what you want in your life? Clarify your objectives

How do I define my objectives?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Beckett says:

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better” (Lo intentaste. Fracasaste. Da igual. Prueba otra vez. Fracasa otra vez. Fracasa mejor)

Failure doesn’t always mean success – it doesn’t always mean that you’re going to get away with it.  It means that you’re going to learn strategies to resist, to continue, and where you want to put your effort.  It means you will have tried your best.

Do you know what you want in your life? Clarify your objectives

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